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How to hold space for someone to transform

 What is it about certain people that enables you to feel safe with them, that you know its ok to be with them while you process or work through something;  that helps you really go deep, knowing that they have your back?  What is it about you and what you do that enables people to feel safe with you?

It's a really good question to ask yourself, explore and do some research on - especially if you want people to trust you to be there for them as they transform.

When I was at university studying psychology this was an area that was discussed in depth,  with plenty of time to practice using different techniques and questions.   A quick google search can help you find some of these.

One thing I have found less frequently discussed is how you hold the space for someone with your intent, how you set the space up that you work with them.  How to help them feel safe enough and trust you.  Here are seven ideas  I  find make a difference.

1. Clear the space you are in, this can be physically (clear a chair to sit on for example) or energetically - such as clearing the imprints and essence of other beings in the room.  
2. Use your heart space to open up an energy container for the session.  A couple of ways I like to do this include heart bubbles, and stretching into my power.
3. Coming from you heart.  Crate a heart space for this person.  Imagine plenty of support around them.  
4. Coming from a place of authenticity  -  You can tell when someone is being authentic and people working with you can too.  Think of two shop assistants. One says "oh that's lovely" when you try on a top that's way to tight.  Do you trust them?  The other acknowledges a different size might be better, and gets it for you.  Do do you trust? Who do you feel more comfortable with?  
5. Compassion - having compassion for yourself and the other people is integral. Yes, they may be projecting, but if you don't like someone,  are frustrated or triggered by them, then you are unlikely to be doing your best work. If you are holding space for them with compassion it will be so much easier for you to see the big picture, to see what is triggering their behaviour and your reaction. People don't come to you for your reaction - they come for a transformation. If you are reacting (with disgust, fear, anger, dislike) I would encourage you to step back from their space (energetically), reconnect with compassion and unconditional Love. 
6. Seeing them as a energetic Divine being.  When you see them as a soul being having a human experience, you can ask, what are they needing to learn here, what is this experience helping them to learn?  It helps lift you out of the drama and into more transformative options.
7. Co-creating.  Recognise that they are creating their reality and are the "experts" on them.  You, with your knowledge and experience, are co-creating the session.  Being open to answers from Divine Source Energy.   This leads into the next item.

Have fun playing with these. 

I'd love to hear what you do to create space.