Live in Light

Retrain your nervous system to respond with Love

What triggers your fight or flight response? What is it that says “This is no good - I’m outta here”, “no-ones going to treat me like that”?

Sometimes it's a genuine physical threat such as stalling your car on a railway crossing with an approaching train. Your fight or flight response gets you moving quickly - get the car going or leave.

At other times its less obvious, such stopping yourself asking a question in a meeting in case others think you are a fool. In both these situations (real or imagined) your nervous system reacts in a similar way - racing heart, sweating, muscles tensing, increased breathing to name a few. However only one of these triggers requires you to move in a hurry - and thats the real one not the imagined one.

Theres a saying that 99% of what you worry about never happens. So why does your fight or flight response still get triggered when the odds are so low of it actually happening?

If you can imagine time slowing down to almost freeze frame speed, you would see that you are actually responding not to the event as such, but to how you recognise the event and what you believe it means. It happens so quickly you are unaware of what is going on “behind the scenes”. After all your nervous system is really good at looking at past events to predict future ones.

It does a super quick search through your life, all things you inherited and the general collective history to make sense of the situation and decide the best course of action. From an evolution perspective it’s brilliant. You’re in the bush and encounter a sabre tooth tiger for the first time. This quick search system lets you know this is not a cute cat to pat and urges you to move - quickly!

But what if it’s not a life threatening situation (such as the above situation where you decide not to ask a question in a meeting)? Your super efficient search engine may have recalled an event where a great grandparent was ridiculed for asking a question. Your nervous system spots that memory, lets you know this is possibly dangerous and advises you to put your hand down.

This nervous system is obviously vital to our well being. But is there some way that we can retrain it?  Is it possible to train the system to look more in the present here and now so it can help you to respond in a more constructive, loving way? Yes it its.

While your nervous system looks to the past to predict the future, your heart connects to your soul to listen to a greater knowing - giving it an enormous amount of support in terms of reassurance and access to a higher truth. For example: ‘Yes, great grandparent Bob felt a fool, but no-one here in the meeting understands what is being said so they will be grateful if you do ask”.

Your heart can beat to this rhythm of support and when your nervous system learns to listen to it you can experience greater peace of mind. You will then know if its the 99% imagined or 1% real threat that a needs a response.

Here are 4 strategies to help you change the way your nervous system responds to these old genetic and history beliefs:

1. Come with an attitude of gratitude. When you feel your nervous system getting into a fight or flight mode that it for attempting to keep you safe. Then let it know there is a more accurate supportive way of recognising what to respond to.

2. Take time to listen to your heart space. Meditation is an effective way of doing this. I personally find the ThetaHealing meditation technique the most effect, but you may have a daily practice that works well for you.

3. Imagine your nervous system being safely shown how to connect to the knowing of your heartsease support, so it can safely recognise it.

4. Clear the trauma from the genetic and history level. The ThetaHealing technique of belief and feeling work can assist here.